Two years and a Day

Today is me and LM's second Year and a Day anniversary. Year and a Day refers to the traditional provisional pagan handfasting. Couples would agree to a year's worth of marital committment, then usually go on to either separate or do a more permanent marriage or seven year handfasting.

Our arrangement might not seem the most romantic, but for us, it walks the edge between committed adult love and freedom from artificial bonds.

Every year we will have what I have come to refer to our annual shareholder's meeting. A deliberate conversation where nothing about the relationship is assumed and a time to chase out any underlying issues of contention. An intentional decison of whether or not to continue this relationship and under what terms.

We have decided to carry on for another year and a day. Now we go for a little anniversary vacation. Hint: we'll be taking our fishing caps. And I will be taking my hoola hooops. It is a gorgeous fall and the weekend looks fine!